Andrea Arlington: Hi there. I'm Andrea Arlington. And welcome to Ask Andrea where I answer questions and offer solutions to questions about relationships, family healing, and more. I hope you enjoy this episode. Watch or read more "Ask Andrea" right here. Dear Andrea,...
What is "the identified patient"? Often known as the black sheep or scapegoat, the ‘identified patient’ is the targeted source of a family system’s dysfunction. The identified patient is often labeled during childhood, and this role can cause serious consequences for...
Hi there, I'm Andrea Arlington, and welcome to Ask Andrea where I answer questions and offer solutions to questions about relationships, family healing, and more. I hope you enjoy this episode. "Dear Andrea, I'm an adult child of alcoholic and narcissistic parents. I...
Having a strong attachment to someone might sound like a bad thing. This term has become synonymous with “codependency” or “dependence” in popular literature. Yet, attachment theory is still widely misunderstood. However, attachment is actually a normal and...
Enmeshment refers to a dysfunctional relationship pattern lacking clear or healthy boundaries. The level of closeness often becomes constraining and detrimental. Over time, this pattern can result in mental health problems, developmental delays, and serious problems...
While it’s normal for parents and caregivers to feel worried about their child’s health and well-being, postpartum anxiety refers to a constant feeling of paranoia or dread. This experience extends beyond the typical fears of a child’s safety. In some cases, it...
We are products of the people who raised us. Our families play a pivotal role in our thoughts, behaviors, and personalities. Understanding your family dynamic helps you build insight into your patterns with yourself and others. It also teaches you about your morals...
Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences to endure. The feelings of confusion, shock, anger, and hurt can be overwhelming and insurmountable. For many, this betrayal can incredibly traumatic. Although difficult, infidelity does not have to be a relationship...
Some people can easily recognize the toxicity in their family systems. In these cases, the dysfunction is obvious. Others may dismiss their experiences as normal or even as deserved. At times, this kind of toxicity can even be challenging. It’s hard to heal from...
You’re tired of feeling like conflicts become catastrophic events. It seems like your loved ones use their words or actions to hurt one another. The resentment festers, arguments escalate, and everyone becomes frustrated or even enraged with one another. In...